There’s an article which has been going around Facebook lately. I finally got around to reading it. It’s titled “You just broke your child. Congratulations.” Even though I should be going to bed, I had to share it with you.
Here’s an excerpt:
Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please.
I feel a need to write this post after what I witnessed at Costco yesterday. Forgive me for another post written in desperation and anger. Please read all the way to the end. I know it’s long, but this is something that needs to be said. It’s something that needs to be heard. It’s something that needs to be shared.
As Noah and I stood in line to make a return, I watched as a little boy (he couldn’t have been older than six) looked up at his dad and asked very timidly if they could buy some ice cream when they were done. The father glared him down, and through clenched teeth, growled at the boy to “leave him alone and be quiet.” The boy quickly cowered to the wall where he stood motionless and hurt for some time.
The line slowly progressed and the child eventually shuffled back to his father as he quietly hummed a childish tune, seemingly having forgotten the anger his father had just shown. The father again turned and scolded the boy for making too much noise. The boy again shrunk back and cowered against the wall, wilted.
I was agitated. I was confused. How could this man not see what I see? How could this man not see what a beautiful spirit stood in his shadow? How could this man be so quick to stub out all happiness in his own boy? How could this man not cherish the only time he’ll ever have to be everything to this boy? To be the person that matters most to this boy?
Read the article. It’s potentially life-changing, whether you’re a dad now, or might be someday in the future. I feel like it’s changed my life, and I’m a long ways off from being a dad myself. Hopefully when that day comes, I can be the kind of dad he talks about in that post.
PS: Hopefully I remember (and have the motivation) to post on here more often. I have a lot harder time posting about life than about technology….. ;–) Stay tuned!